Every child will have a tantrum and every parent knows what a nightmare it is when it happens. You end up potentially saying and doing things you wouldn’t if you were feeling calmer and perhaps more in control of the situation. There are times when I think most mums wished the ground would swallow them up, me included as their child chooses to tantrum in the most public of places.
This tip to help tackle tantrums is about YOU, which might seem countrer intuative. However, you are your child’s biggest role model, so if you shout and stamp your feet to get your own way then guess what so will your child. You may not even be aware that you are doing it.
Let us look at the way you respond to the tantrum, if you come from a calmer place then changes will take place, as you are role modelling to your child an alternative.
Here are some ideas to help you remain calmer when dealing with a tantrum:
- Are there warning signs before your child goes into full on tantrum? What are they? Can you intercept, bring humour to the situation, divert attention?
- When you feel a tantrum is looming, breathe and count to 10. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth for 4 breaths, potentially cursing with every breath to help you feel better about what is going on in front of you.
- Do you have a tantrum plan? What can you think through in times of peace so when all is hitting off you know what your way forward is.
- Remember the chlld you love is in there, even if in that moment they are disguising themselves as a wild child.